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Throwing Stones

12 Nov

WHAT?! You must be saying. TWO posts in one day?

Crazy, right?

I had actually planned to just post about the DIY Challenge this morning, but then found out that my article would be going up on the Dad’s Roundtable website today. When I was writing THAT article, I also wrote this post ABOUT writing that article. Yeah, a lot of thinking has been happening in this ol’ brain.

So, here you go… my thoughts behind The Mom Inch….

 

I’ve had an idea floating around in my head for a post that I want to do on the Dad’s Roundtable website.

This idea has been floating around for weeks. Maybe even months. And every time I start typing up my thoughts, I think “no, someone is going to get mad at me” and delete my writing. This has happened a half-dozen times so far.

Lame, right?

I mean. It’s not like I intentionally want to make people mad at me. I certainly don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings. It’s just that sometimes you need to write your feelings out. And you CAN, because they are how YOU feel.

Maybe I should just put a big “NO OFFENSE” sticker on the top of the post?

ARG!*

The idea is that there is that no matter how “equal” or “fair” your family tries to make life… it’s not. SOMEONE always has to do just a little bit more. And in our family, that someone is me.

I don’t mean this in a disrespectful way to my husband, because he is pretty darn awesome. There aren’t many men out there that would feel confident enough in themselves to spend Wednesdays home with their son and ignore the crappy comments of their co-workers.

It just seems like there are things only seen by my eyes. Like the big pile of dishes in the sink. Or the unmade bed. Or the pile of laundry that is on the floor and not quite in the laundry basket.

I call it the “Mom Inch” and part of me thinks it’s really stupid to talk about it on the DAD’S Roundtable. I mean, isn’t that like attacking their dad-ness?

I hear complaints of stay-at-home moms who are angry that their husband doesn’t contribute enough with the excuse that staying home with the kids “is their job.” But what about those of us who work full time AND still have all those duties at home? I can’t be the only one who after a full day of work and a full day of being Supermom, still has a bit more to do. Right?

All this and more is why I wrote “The Mom Inch” which was published on Dad’s Roundtable today. Stop by to check it out and let me know what you think.

 

*That’s my frustrated pirate noise. FYI.

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Celebrating our 5th Anniversary in Hershey Park

21 Oct

IMG_2468Each year on our wedding anniversary, we like to take a little vacation away.  We’ve previously gone to Jamaica (honeymoon), Deep Creek Lake (year 1), Universal Studios (year 2) and a Caribbean cruise (year 3). We had planned to go to Atlantic City for an Oktoberfest last year (year 4), but that trip was cancelled at the last minute because everyone got sick.

This year, we decided to do something that was fun for the whole family… Hershey Park. So we left town on Friday after work and spent the weekend in Hershey, Pennsylvania. The park was opened especially for their Hershey Park In the Dark celebration, so the whole park was decorated for Halloween!

Instead of giving you a play-by-play of each moment of the weekend, let’s just talk about some highlights and share some pretty pictures…

The Good
We had an awesome time at the park and Jack LOVED the rides. I had dressed him up in a lion costume (from TJ Maxx for less than $20) and we could not go 5 feet without someone complimenting him. What can I say; I made a pretty darn cute kid!

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It was nice to just spend a weekend together as a family, without work, DIY projects or any other distractions hanging over our heads. It was really great watching Jack experience rides for the first time and the weather on Sunday made it the perfect gorgeous fall day. A lot of kids were in costume and they even had Trick or Treat activities in both the park and the Hershey Story museum.

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Also under the “good” is our dinner at the Hershey Grill. So. Darn. Good. I had the Crème Brulee Martini and if I could have licked the glass, I would have. Actually, I DID lick the edges of the glass where it was dipped in deliciousness… but that’s totally acceptable behavior.

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The Bad
Tantrums. So many tantrums. Because of the excitement of being in a new place and the lack of privacy in the room, Jack didn’t get any naps over the weekend. So yeah…there were tantrums. And tears. And instances of head-butting. You know…normal behavior for an overtired toddler.

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This isn’t a tantrum… Jack just likes licking things.

Even worse than a grumpy toddler is a grumpy mommy. When we tried to go to sleep on Saturday night (around 9:15), we found out how THIN the walls are at the hotel.  Every 10 – 15 minutes from 9:30 to midnight or so, another family screamed their way down the hallway, many times stopping right outside our door to make their plans for the next morning.

Loudly.
With lots of yelling.
LOUD yelling.

I strongly considered calling reception to have them do something about it, but each screaming conversation would last about 5 minutes until they moved on…only to be replaced by another family’s yelling 10 minutes later. I have no idea how Travis and Jack slept through this, but I’m really happy they did because I had NOTHING left to give at that point.

IMG_2517So there you go, our 5 year anniversary celebration. It was a big change from previous year’s, but fun in its own way. I remember 5 years ago we thought that a trip to Hawaii would be the perfect way to spend our fifth anniversary. Now I’m thinking that might be a great 10 year anniversary spot… for a GROWN UPS only trip.

We haven’t actually been away without Jack since he was born. Since my mom helps us out by watching him three days a week, we wouldn’t want to ask her to do more on the weekends. There will be a day where we can go away alone though… right?!

How old was your kid when you were able to go away for a weekend on your own? Do you have an anniversary tradition that you keep up every year?

Just so you know, this was NOT a sponsored post. All thoughts, comments and complaints are my own. However, we did get free tickets for Saturday’s visit to Hershey Park in the Dark. We liked the experience so much that we purchased additional tickets to go back on Sunday.

Do you REALLY need a diaper bag?

15 Oct

I’m doing something crazy. It’s flying-by-the-seat of your pants crazy in the mommy world… I’ve gotten rid of my diaper bag.

{I can hear the parents out there with their shocked gasps now!}

Ok, it’s not that crazy. And if you’re not a parent you’re probably wondering why it’s even a big (ok, medium-sized) deal. Honestly, I do feel a bit naked and maybe even uneasy with this change.

For the past 20 months, every single time I’ve left the house with Jack I’ve had my diaper bag.

diaperbagIt’s not your typical diaper bag from Baby’s R Us or Target… it’s actually a large purse from Fossil that I fell in love with and asked my parents to buy me for Christmas two years ago. It has worked great for lugging around everything you need when you have a baby: bottles/formula, cups, a changing pad, spare clothes, diapers, wipes, medicine, snacks, my wallet, etc.

But, it’s HEAVY.

And you tend to just throw things in there and later pull out three used cups, 8 empty snack containers and 3 socks.

I came to the realization a few weeks ago (and I’m almost afraid to share it because I might jinx myself) that I never change Jack’s diaper when we are out and about. Never.  I change his diaper before we leave and he’s typically mostly dry for a few hours at a time. Also, Jack prefers to be home when he has his own personal twosie time… so I’ve never had to do that ‘oh no my kid just launched a poo granade’ thing in public.*

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Skip Hop lunchie (Source: www.Skiphop.com)

For most trips, I’d find myself leaving the diaper bag in the truck and just grabbing out my wallet. So I had the bright idea to just give up on a diaper bag altogether. Instead, I packed a cute Skip Hop lunchbox that we had gotten from Citrus Lane with the necessities – 2 diapers, a small pack of wipes, a change of clothes, teething tabs and an emergency pacifier – and left it in my truck for good. I also packed a gallon baggy containing 2 diapers and wipes for my husband to keep in his truck. So now, for our normal trips I’ll just throw a baggie of goldfish in my purse and be done with it.**

So much easier, right?

And if we do run into a changing emergency, I have everything I need in my truck without lugging it around daily. Why didn’t I do this months ago?!

Part of me feels a little sad because I most likely carried my diaper bag for the very last time, but another part of me feels so much lighter – mentally and physically – without the heavy bag o’ crap on my shoulder.

If you have kids, how long did you carry your diaper bag? Is there something that you think I should add to my truck ‘necessities’ bag?

*The only exception to this is that Jack apparently likes to poo on planes.

** For longer trips, like when we go to Hershey Park, I’ll put some necessities in a backpack or in a small bag to keep in the bottom of the stroller.

Celebrating Fall at a Pumpkin Patch

8 Oct

Actually, the title of this post should be “Celebrating Fall at a Pumpkin Patch when it’s almost 90 Degrees Outside” but that seems a bit long.

What the heck is up with October in Maryland? I’m ready for my crisp fall days, jeans with boots and hot pumpkin spice latte’s. It’s just not working for me when I’m still wearing shorts and a t-shirt (even if it is my super adorable t-shirt from Stitch Fix) and SWEATING on a hayride. We’ve already established how sweat and bangs don’t go together, right?!

Even if the weather didn’t listen to me, we had a wonderful time visiting a pumpkin patch over the weekend. Due to some sleepy kiddo schedules (mine just finished a nap when her daughter was pooped from a hectic day of ballet and the drive to the patch), I only had a few minutes to spend with my bestie’s family… but I totally got a picture that includes her arm, so that counts for something!

Anyways, here are some of my favorite pictures from our hot fall day:

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Look it’s Annie’s arm! And a friendly goat who would like to snack on some goat food… or my kid. Whichever gets closer first.

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I love how Jack is trying to stick his head through the fence for a closer look at the cows. Or maybe he’s just thinking he might like a burger later.

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Jack is NOT IMPRESSED with the crowded hayride. And frankly, I don’t like people sweating on me, so I’m not impressed either…

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My boys — picking out a winner.

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Me and Jack, just chilling and fondling a random pumpkin.

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The mandatory family picture. The random guy I asked to take this picture was not enthused. And honestly he kind of seemed like he hated the pumpkin patch. And people. Oh and Jack is really into waving at people now… especially when they’re not looking.

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I turned around on our drive home and saw that this is how my husband secured the pumpkin.

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Bonus pic: I’m smiling for the camera and Jack is sneaking a taste of my farm-made root beer soda (NO it’s not alcohol!)

How do you celebrate fall? Do you go to a pumpkin patch to pick out your own pumpkin or just grab one at the grocery store? Are you a fall festival minx like me? Another one is coming up this weekend and I can’t wait!

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